Earlier this year, my boyfriend had to attend this two-week work convention. Now, let me tell you, even though we’ve been together for years, this was the first time we were gonna be apart for so long. Yes, those two weeks felt like an eternity! I mean, what even is life without my eye candy by your side? My solution? Gay phone sex! Yup, you read that right. It was awesome and a lifesaver, ngl. We laughed, we connected, and it made the distance a little more bearable. Just goes to show, that when life throws you lemons, sometimes you gotta get a bit creative with your lemonade!
Who Should Try Gay Phone Sex?
Phone sex can be totally lit for so many gays out there. Here’s the 411:
- LDR Peepz: Long-distance? No prob. When you can’t be there IRL, phone sex is your bestie.
- Shy Folks: If you’re not quite ready to do it face-to-face, gay phone sex can ease you into things. It’s chill and not as stressful as physical intimacy. It’s also a good measure if you’re still unsure if you’re like, gay-gay.
- Busy Bees: Got no time for a proper sash cause of capitalism? Sneak in some steamy chit-chat whenever you can catch a break.
- Thrill Seekers: Love trying new stuff? Spilling your wildest fantasies over the phone is a spicy twist.
- Introverted Queens: If socializing too much tires you out, gay phone sex means you can be all cozy and still get your freak on.
Benefits of Phone Sex
To get you on board, lemme add why you should do gay phone sex:
- Better Talk Game: if you’re in this for the long haul, you have to know how to spell out your dirty dreams. This can seriously improve your communication skills. When you’re good at talking about what you want, you’ll win both in the sheets and out. (I’m a modern poet, I know!)
- More Imagination: No physical touch, just your mind going wild with erotic scenes. It pumps up your creativity and makes things way hotter and personal. Netflix for your brain, anyone?
- Safe and Comfy: No worries about STDs or any unexpected drama. You can talk about your limits and what you’re into without any awkwardness.
- All About the Feels: With no physical distractions, you zero in on the sounds and feelings. You’ll start noticing the little things, like tone and pitch. All of these make the experience way more intense!
- Super Convenient: Phone sex is easy-peasy, anytime, anywhere. No need to plan like a heist, just dial up and you’re good to go!
Top 5 Tips for Better Gay Phone Sex
Whether you’re new to this or not, there are still many ways to make your phone sex hotter. My best tips are:
Get a temperature check
Before diving into the deep end, you have to make sure you and your partner are on the same page. You don’t want to start your dirty talk when they’re just not in the mood, right? Just hit them up casually, “You down for some spicy talk?”
This is also the moment to clear up any worries or triggers. Look, we all got our stuff, and it’s best to be upfront about it. Chat about any doubts or anxieties either of you have. Whether it’s a hard no on certain topics or just wanting to know what makes the other person tick, this convo is necessary.
This pre-game chat is where the magic starts. It isn’t just about safety checks. It’s about building that tension. Talk about your day, throw in a couple of flirty lines, and share what you’re both into. Before you know it, you’ll both be buzzing with anticipation. It’s like the ultimate foreplay!
Learn phone sex lingo
Since you mostly use words in gay phone sex, you also need to brush up on your phone sex dictionary. What are the right, sexy words to use to set the mood?
My first tip? Get into erotica audiobooks. No joke! They’re the verbal aphrodisiacs. You can multitask and listen while you’re doing chores or really get into it by just lying on your bed. You can pick up so many new phrases and ways to describe stuff that’ll make your partner’s head spin.
If you’re feeling extra adventurous, try listening to porn, minus the visuals. Seriously, just focusing on the sounds? Game changer. You’ll start picking up on the moans, the whispers, the tone of voice. It’ll give you some mad info for your sessions. You want to sound natural, not like you’re reading from a script. Plus, you get to learn what really turns you on, so you can steer the convo in that direction.
Gear up!
Through those two weeks, I learned that setting the scene is half the battle. I can’t explain how frustrated I was when I was all horny and my boyfriend has to bounce to work in a minute! It’s super crucial to block out the time on both your calendars. Make the gay phone sex sesh exclusive, with no interruptions!
Another tip to gear up is to prep the room. You need to be in the mood with zilch distraction. Tidy up, dim the lights, make sure your lubes and toys are very easy to reach!
Of course, prep yourself! Wear something that makes you feel confident and desirable. Maybe it’s that cologne you love or those tight jockstraps. Have a glass of wine or your favorite drink ready. Relax, get comfy, and oh! Be sure your phone is fully charged and your signal’s all good! It’s such a mood-killer to repeatedly say “Hello?” and “Can you hear me now?”
Know what to talk about
So, you’ve set the mood and you’re ready to roll. What’s next? Knowing what to talk about is major. Try reliving old steamy encounters you’ve had when he was with you. Remember that time on the kitchen counter or that wild car ride? Paint the picture with your words. Go all in on the details— what you wore, how you felt, what he did to you.
Another dope move is to describe what you’re doing in real-time. Are you touching yourself? Let him know. Tell him how much you miss his touch, how his hands drive you crazy. Let him hear those heavy breaths, grunts, and moans. If he’s into certain stuff, like leather, for example, let him hear the strain of the leather fabric against your skin. Now’s the time to not be shy! You could even get him to guide you, “Tell me where to touch myself, babe,” or “Show me how you like it.”
Sometimes, the ole cheeky, “What are you wearing right now?” works. If you’re used to getting freaky, don’t hold back. Bypass the hi-hellos and dive straight into it with something like “I bought a dildo the same size as yours.”
Be you
Kinda corny, but it’s true! You know your partner best and he knows you. Unless you’re doing roleplay, sticking to what made you attracted to each other is best. Aren’t no need to be someone else or put on an act, cause that’s what he fell for in the first place— the real you.
Share those inside jokes or tease each other about that one time you couldn’t stop laughing in bed. Keeping things natural makes the whole experience way more intimate and fun.
And hey, don’t sweat it if things don’t go perfectly. Maybe the signal dies or you accidentally knock over that glass of wine. Laugh it off, don’t dwell on it. It’s all about keeping that connection between you and him.
More Tips for Gay Phone Sex
- It doesn’t work for you? Say so! But not in a way that it embarrasses your partner. Say “Baby, actually, I want you to do /this/ to me, instead, please?”
- Don’t be rule-bound! There are no rules in phone sex anyway, like physical sex. It’s okay to laugh if you’re shy or say no if you’re uncomfortable. You and your partner will learn your quirks through more sessions, so don’t worry too much.
- Take advantage of it, why not try kinks or fetishes you haven’t before? If you’re not brave enough to try your fantasies when you’re physically together, doing it through phone sex can be an icebreaker. For instance, you can call your boyfriend and greet him with “Sir, I can’t pay my rent this month. Is there any way I can make up for it… with something else?” If he goes with the flow, then it’s not far-fetched that he’s into roleplaying when he comes home to you.
Conclusion
There ya have it— gay phone sex isn’t rocket science. It’s about opening up, getting creative, and most importantly, having a bucket-load of fun while doing it. Put on that charm, and get naughty… I mean, why the hell not?
