Do you know the most common gay foreplay mistakes you might be committing right now? Here’s a list of these oopsies to guarantee pleasure!
Let’s switch gears and talk about something very important but often overlooked— gay foreplay! Yep, I’m gonna go there so you can keep the sparks flying with your loverboy!
Skipping Hygiene
Even animals in the wild have a hygiene routine, so what makes you think it’s not a part of gay foreplay and everything that follows?
I hope you haven’t had this misfortune, but imagine wanting to make out with a muscular stranger only to realize that he apparently doesn’t know how mouthwashes work.
Cleanliness is sexy, plain and simple.
Nothing kills the mood faster than worrying about whether you smell fresh and not just down there.
Your papi will appreciate your sexual hygiene, too. A clean body means fewer distractions and more focus on the fun stuff.
Also, good hygiene prevents infections and other health issues. That’s reason enough.
Hygiene Checklist
Here’s a simple checklist to keep yourself super fresh and ready for action:
- Shower Daily: This one’s a no-brainer, but make sure you hit all the key spots.
- Trim or Shave: Whether it’s your face, chest, or, you know, just keep things tidy especially if you like receiving oral.
- Smell Good: Invest in a good deodorant or body spray. You want your partner to lean in, not back away.
- Oral Hygiene: Floss, then brush.
- Wipe & Wash: After any bathroom trip, make sure you’re clean. Wet wipes were invented for a reason!
Thinking it’s a “Performance”
If you’ve ever watched gay porn (and who hasn’t?), you know that it’s all about nonsense, drama, and theatrics.
But guess what? IRL gay foreplay isn’t a Broadway show.
Thinking that you need to perform like a porn star is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.
Especially when porn stars themselves don’t exactly give Oscar-worthy performances.
When things start feeling like a script, you’re missing out on the genuine connection and pleasure that come with being in the moment.
Porn is full of exaggerated reactions and over-the-top moves that are designed for the camera, not for real-life fun.
You don’t need to scream, moan, or do backflips just to keep your partner interested.
This is a special message to tops— don’t overexert yourself. Know how to keep just the right pace.
You don’t have to rail your subbie like it’s the end of the world for thirty minutes straight! Even if you can—have mercy on his poor hole!
The point is, don’t pressure yourself with unrealistic sex. Pleasure yourself with what works for you and your papi.
Assuming it Always Leads to Sex
Yeah, I know, gay foreplay is supposed to be “before the play,” play meaning sex.
But here’s a novel idea: gay foreplay doesn’t always have to be a straight ticket to Pound Town!
I know it’s common to assume gay foreplay is just a warm-up for the main event.
But think about it— what if you’re just not in the mood to go all the way?
That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy some seriously hot and heavy pre-action.
Foreplay is all about exploring your loverboy, teasing, and getting those engines revving.
Even without full-on sex, it can be sexually stimulating and exciting to play around and leave the rest for later.
Not Prepping
I’ll be crude here— the anus isn’t exactly a self-lubricating wonderland.
When it comes to gay foreplay, not prepping can really turn a fun time into a not-so-fun time quickly.
You don’t want to debate me on this.
So, if you’re gonna bottom, be prepared.
And by prepared, I mean using plenty of lube and maybe even some stretching to get things a-ok.
Now, there are some times when you might not need as much prep.
- You had sexy times earlier in the day, and you’re still good to go
- You’re a lucky bot who just doesn’t need a lot of lubes. (A miracle of nature!)
Don’t feel or act weird about it. Seriously, your partner will thank you, and you’ll both have an overall grander time.
Not Cutting Your Fingernails
When you’re going at it, your hands are bound to roam around new territories.
What if instead of feeling all nice, a hang nail gets caught on your papi’s shirt?
Even worse: What if your claw-like fingernails scratch his skin?
So do yourself a favor and keep ’em clean and trimmed.
So grab a nail clipper, give those nails a good trim, and maybe even a quick file to smooth out any rough edges.
And while you’re at it, wash your hands well. Really well!
Getting Straight to the Main Event
Gay foreplay is a part of the complete package. You wouldn’t skip straight to dessert without tasting the appetizer, would you?
It builds excitement, so the sex becomes more intense. you’ll get to know what really turns your loverboy on. Isn’t that hot all on its own?
Here are some killer benefits of not skipping the fun stuff:
- Builds Sexual Tension: The longer you play around, the more intense the final act will be.
- Better Connection: Foreplay helps you connect with your partner on a deeper level. You bond, you explore, and you both feel more at ease.
- Warms Things Up: Foreplay gets your body ready for sex. It sends all the good hormones to all the right regions!
- More Orgasms: Yeah— that’s right! Longer gay foreplay means more chances of mind-blowing orgasms!
- Variety: It breaks up the routine. Sex can get boring if it’s always the same. Foreplay adds spice and keeps things tasting like a new dish!
Not Switching Things Up
Here’s the deal, though— if you keep your gay foreplay routine the same, it’ll get stale.
Stale means it doesn’t taste as good anymore. Switching things up will keep you and your loverboy on your toes.
It adds an element of surprise and stops things from becoming predictable.
- Change the Location: If you’re feeling risky, try the couch, the shower, or even the kitchen counter.
- Try New Moves: Touch your papi where you haven’t before. Go at it at different speeds and varied pressures. Vr-ai-uh-tee!
- Add Toys: Bring some toys into the mix! Dildos, rings, or massage oils already feel very naughty. Wear interesting things, fetish outfits if you dare.
- Use Your Mouth: Don’t just stick to kissing. A little nibble here, some bites there. Talk dirty, too.
- Switch Roles: If you usually take charge, let your partner lead for a change!
Not Being Aware of Your Man
When you’re all caught up in the heat of the moment, it’s easy to forget to check in with your papi.
But as his partner, you still need to be aware of each other’s non-verbal cues.
So, what should you look out for?
- His Breath: If he’s breathing heavier or shallower, he’s definitely into what you’re doing. Keep going!
- Moans and Groans: These musical notes will tell you if you’re playing the right tune.
- Body Language: If he’s arching his back, digging his nails into you, or pulling you closer, he’s loving it.
- Eye Contact: His eyes can say a lot. If he’s looking at you with that dreamy, half-lidded eye look, go on.
Opposite of these cues means you should take a breather or stop altogether. Just ask him nicely. If he trusts you (and he should if you’re doing gay foreplay), your loverboy will tell you exactly what the concern is if you aren’t sure.
Not Talking
I don’t mean “dirty talking” here, okay? I mean talking as in talking with your brain.
You might think talking can shatter the libido fog, but clear communication helps you both understand which is which and what is what.
What does your papi want? Does your papi know what you want? Skip the guesswork and just talk.
Save time you can use instead spread eagle on the bed.
Plus, hey, it’s an instant feedback loop. You can easily tell if something’s working or if you need to go the alternate naughty route.
But there are certain exceptions:
- One-Night Stands: Sometimes, you just want a wild, wordless adventure.
- BDSM Play: If your game is a bit more on the kinky side, like when someone’s gagged, it’s pretty obvious that chatting’s off the table.
- Roleplay Rules: If your dom orders you to stay quiet, well, you better obey… unless you want to be punished!
Beating Yourself Over Mistakes
“What if I messed up?” Spoiler alert: it happens.
All gay men have been there, done that! So, you fumbled a bit during gay foreplay— big deal! Don’t keep score!
if you start beating yourself up over these mistakes, you’re just gonna make everything worse.
Imagine going into the next fun time with your partner, but you’re all stiff and worried about screwing up.
Not exactly a recipe for a good time! You’ll be, too, in your head, overthinking every move, and that’s no way to have any fun.
Take the oops moments in stride, laugh about them with your papa, and keep the vibe light.
If you keep stressing about the past, you’re missing out on the good stuff happening right now!
