If you’re active in the gay community, it is extremely likely that you have come across the term “Pet Play” before. Given you’re reading this, you’re probably new to Pet Play or want to learn more about it after hearing someone talk about it.
Pet Play can be defined as a form of roleplay within the kink and BDSM communities focused on pets and handlers. A common example is a handler, typically a dom. Along with a submissive “pet”. Often, this will be a man attached to a lead, or wearing animal-inspired clothing.
These power dynamics are most common, but some people may choose a different approach. Typically, people will engage in Pet Play for a mix of psychological, emotional and sexual motivations. There is no “correct” way to engage in Pet Play, so don’t stress too much about getting things right!
Types of Pets in Pet Play
Pet Play is called Pet Play for a reason. While many would associate the word with treating the sub like a dog, there are multiple types of pets in Pet Play.
We’re going to cover a few different types to demonstrate the versatility of Pet Play. Hopefully this will help you establish what sort of Pet Play you are looking for!
Puppy Play
Puppy Play is typically regarded as the most popular type of Pet Play. As the name implies, the sub is usually treated like a dog, and the dom is their master.
This form of Pet Play is easiest to get into thanks to the large range of dog related gear readily available within gay spaces. For example, pup hoods or dog masks.
The popularity definitely lies in the fact that the dynamics between dogs and their owners already share a lot in common between subs and doms to begin with. For example, praising, teasing or petting are all things that can be used to play with a submissive pup.
Plus, it’s great for the pup themselves. Being on all fours, acting dumb and obedient for a handsome man, is probably a fantasy most of us share! It’s usually pretty clear what to expect when trying Puppy Play!
Kitten Play
Not the sort of sub who enjoys being completely obedient to their dom? Kitten Play might be more your thing!
Kitten Play is similar to Puppy Play, but the kitten is usually more independent or bossy. They may turn their nose up to food offered by their dom until they’ve pleased them in some way.
Kitten Play will definitely appeal more to those who enjoy being bratty subs, and they can even manipulate power dynamics between themselves and their owners, so the kitten ends up being the dom!
Other Animal Roles
You don’t need to limit yourself to stereotypical domestic animals when it comes to Pet Play! You will typically find that most animal stereotypes also translate into Pet Play.
Into gaining or fatter men, or like your men lazy and slobby? Why not try Pig Play? Into BDSM and harnesses? Pony Play may be more your style! Enjoy versatility, or want to include lots of foreplay and teasing? Fox Play exists!
Obviously, it may be a little harder to find appropriate gear for more obscure animals, but that doesn’t mean you can’t give more unique kinds of Pet Play a go!
Role Of Gear And Costumes
However, for the most effective means of immersing yourself in Pet Play, you should definitely consider getting yourself some gear or costumes!
These will allow you, or whoever is taking on the animal role, to get more into character. It’ll make the experience that much more arousing and unique for you both! Obviously, if you can afford to get a full-body costume, that tends to work best.
However, if your chosen form of Pet Play is a little bit more intense, or if you can’t afford a full costume, there are alternatives! For example, masks, tails, or collars work just as well. Anything vaguely themed around your chosen pet should work well!
Pet Play Gear: A Beginner’s Guide
So now you should have a general idea of what Pet Play is. But what sort of gear should you be looking for as a beginner?
Masks And Hoods
As previously mentioned, gear can add a lot to your Pet Play experience. Masks or Hoods most of all. They’re an easy way for both the pet wearing them, and the owner observing them to get into character.
They disguise the human’s face, which the human brain is hardwired to recognize as another human being. Therefore, it’s much easier to get into the fantasy that Pup Play revolves around.
Thankfully, for this reason, masks and hoods are usually one of the more common pieces of gear you can find. Pup hoods are often found in many gay adult stores, for example.
Even if your mask isn’t intended for Pet Play, don’t let that put you off from buying one! As long as you appear to look like your intended animal, it should work for you.
Not to mention, Smitizen has a selection of multiple dog masks for Pup Play. Wanting something a bit more exotic? Why not try being a rhino?
Tails And Ears
Masks or hoods feel a little too claustrophobic? Simply can’t bear to go without looking at your handsome pet’s real face? Ears might be a better option for you!
Ears convey animalistic features without having to disguise your pet completely. They’re typically a cheaper option if you’re on a tight budget, too.
They also pair excellently with tails. Obviously, it’ll be harder to find tails for certain species, but typically you will be able to find mammal tails pretty easily.
This extra limb will add an extra sense of immersion by giving the pet something that humans lack. Just looking behind you and seeing a tail between your legs does wonders!
Tails will typically come with two different ways to wear them. The most common is the type that attaches to a belt, typically via its buckle.
Though if you’re looking for something a little more exciting, there are many different butt plug options out there too! Smitizen has a few if you’re looking for a latex look.
If you’re willing to splash out, there are even some tails out there that actually move around for that extra level of immersion!
Collars And Leashes
Of course, Pet Play is called Pet Play for a reason. Collars and leashes are practically mandatory if you want to get the full experience.
They establish the main power dynamics for Pet Play, it’s clear who the dom is, because they’re typically the one dragging their pet by the lead. They have control over the sub physically, along mentally.
Collars also demonstrate that the pet is owned by someone. Especially useful if the two of you are out in public and you want to establish your pet is taken. Symbolism is a powerful thing!
Additional Gear
Still not satisfied? Got some extra cash to treat your pet with? Why not consider non-wearable gear?
Cages, pet beds, or food bowls are great if you’re looking to add an extra layer of dehumanization to your Pet Play. You’ll be surprised by just how many people are eager to go completely wild!
Want something that makes it harder for your Pet to act independently from you? You could give mitts a go! These often come in paw designs, and force your pet to be unable to use their fingers.
Pet Play Dynamics And Roles
By now, you should have the animal you have in mind and the accompanying gear sorted. But it’s just as important to consider what sort of dynamics and roles you’ll be going with.
You want to make sure that you and your Pet Plan partner are both getting what you want out of the experience, and not coming across any surprises!
Handlers/Owners
As you can probably guess, Handlers/Owners are the ones who take on the dominant role in Pet Play. They will take responsibility for taking care of and guiding the pet through the experience.
Therefore, it’s important that you are creative if you’re taking on this role. Your Pet is almost solely reliant on you to make an exciting roleplay scenario for the two of you!
What sort of owner you are is down to you, but it’s also incredibly important that you discuss your role with your pet beforehand. Not everyone is into having their lead yanked, after all!
Pets
Pets will typically take on a submissive role to complement their dominant owner’s role.
There’s an expectation to obey the commands of your owner, and to be completely dedicated to pleasing them.
You should also take on animalistic mannerisms. Whether it be the way you speak (or don’t!), or if it’s the way you move yourself. Don’t worry about coming across to cliche!
You can adjust accordingly, given the animal you’re acting as. Obviously a bull probably won’t be as affectionate as a dog, for example.
Communication And Boundaries
Above all else, communication is key to a successful Pet Play experience. We already briefly mentioned planning ahead, but it’s worth mentioning again!
You should make sure to establish safe words or non verbal cues long before you actually get into your scenario. It’s entirely possible for someone to change their mind mid-session.
This is vital if your Pet Play is particularly rough, or focuses on non-consent as a theme. A safe word or gesture is an effective way to allow you to break character and establish that you genuinely need to stop.
Don’t feel discouraged from toying around with power dynamics, either. There’s nothing stopping you from having a dominant pet and a submissive owner, if you want!
Emotional And Psychological Aspects Of Pet Play
For those of you who still don’t see the appeal, this section will cover some of the emotional and psychological benefits behind Pet Play.
Escapism And Regression
Escapism and regression both play huge parts in Pet Play’s appeal. Pet Play allows people to get immersed in a fantasy where they’re not human.
They don’t have to think about any responsibilities they may have outside of that moment. Even looking at themselves alone can help bring that sense of escapism if they’re wearing the right gear.
It allows someone to explore different identities and to try things that wouldn’t be considered “normal” to other members of society.
Obviously, it’s considered a great way of relieving stress as a result, especially for those who may have issues with self-confidence.
Power And Trust
Power dynamics play a huge part in most Pet Play scenarios. Toying with power in such a way can actually provide several benefits psychologically to those involved.
For example, if someone has had a bad experience with an abusive partner, they may be able to learn to process their trauma by being the one in control.
They can learn to trust others with power, and come to an understanding of what healthy, consensual power dynamics look like.
Self Expression And Confidence
Some people simply find Pet Play a great way of releasing their inner self. It’s a popular kink within the furry community as a result.
Even if it’s not their fursona, some people just love to have a reason to try acting like a different species for a while. Some people feel more confident if they’re not looking back at their own reflection.
You may even find yourself enjoying a confidence boost from bossing your pet around. Pet Play should provide mutual benefits for both parties, after all!
Getting Started: Practical Tips For Beginners
By now you’ve hopefully had a chance to consider whether or not Pet Play is for you. If you’re seriously considering giving it a try, here’s some extra tips to help you get started!
Research and Education
Given you’re reading this article, you’re likely already doing your own research. Congratulations on passing step one!
However, any good researcher knows to check multiple sources. The internet has a vast array of knowledge readily available. But you’re more likely to find useful and relevant information by asking those who already participate in Pet Play.
You may have a general gist on how you may feel about participating in Pet Play, but it’s still important that you understand the expectations and connotations involved before leaping right into it.
Don’t feel afraid to ask dumb questions, especially if you feel you’ll have a better Pet Play experience having done so!
Finding A Community
One of the better ways to get started, and to ask any questions is to find a Pet Play community.
You will definitely be able to find large groups of people online who share a passion for Pet Play. However, it may be beneficial for you to find a community that is more local to you.
There are often Pet Play themed nights and meet-ups at gay nightclubs. If you live somewhere with an active gay community, it’ll definitely be worth checking to see if any of your clubs have these.
Just make it clear that you’re new to the community before leaping into something! You don’t want to make your first experience an uncomfortable one!
Selecting Your Gear
When you’re considering your gear, you need to consider how you’ll feel wearing it for long periods of time. Mitts might be a tempting option, but will you find yourself getting annoyed instead of aroused? Consider your own personal tastes before dedicating yourself to something!
You should also consider your budget and the amount of usage your gear will see. Sure, it might be exciting to try out an exotic animal for a scenario, but will the gear you bought for it see usage outside of that one situation? It’s always a good idea to consider gear that can be used for multiple different roles!
If you can, try and go for gear that you can try before you buy. If someone is kind, they may allow you to try on their own gear. Make sure you take your measurements so that you can take them into account, too! Especially if you’re getting something custom made!
Starting Slow!
We’ve already made an emphasis on not rushing into Pet Play, but we’ll do it again here. Starting slow is completely valid, and actually preferable for most people.
You should give yourself a chance to think about what you truly want out of Pet Play. Try out both owner and pet adjacent behaviour and gear. Explore different themes and animals. Even if it’s simply writing ideas down or doing some online erotic role-playing.
Once you’ve started to nail down the specifics of what you’re looking for, then you can start to reach out and actually give it a try. You may find you have an affinity for a certain animal that you hadn’t previously considered!
Most importantly, taking it slow allows you to actually figure out if Pet Play is something you’ll actually enjoy, or if you just enjoyed the concept behind it. There’s no shame in admitting it’s not for you!
Exploring Pet Play Safely
We’ve briefly touched on the importance of communication, but we’re going to put more of an emphasis on it here. Pet Play can be considered a form of BDSM, so therefore it’s just as important to practice safety etiquette.
Setting Boundaries
Everyone has their limits. Not everyone shares these same limits, however. Therefore, it’s incredibly important that you discuss what your boundaries are before you engage in any Pet Play.
This allows you both to know how to plan your Pet Play experience with these boundaries in mind. With these established, it should allow you to have a session without having to stop the flow to discuss that something is making you uncomfortable.
Safe Words And Signals
We’ve mentioned safe words and signals previously, but they’re far too important not to discuss in more detail. These are important for establishing trust. If someone doesn’t want to discuss these, it’s a huge red flag.
When it comes to safe words, ensure that these are distinct and easily recognisable as something outside of your Pet Play scenario. A completely random and unrelated word to anything someone may say when they need help actually works best. Short, distinct and noticeable. “Taco” for example.
Likewise for your signals, especially if someone is going to be in a situation where they can’t actually speak. A distinct signal that can’t be mistaken for something related to your scenario. Something like rubbing your arms against each other whilst they’re crossed, perhaps.
Aftercare
Especially important if your Pet Play is on the rougher side. Aftercare is vital for ensuring your sub is able to come down from any abuse hurled at them during your session.
This can involve cuddling, talking or making them some food. Anything to make them feel comfortable around you and to establish that any hurtful behaviour was only part of the experience, not actually how you feel about them.
Advanced Pet Play
Got the basics down and looking to explore more possibilities for your Pet Play? Here’s some extra suggestions for you to consider!
More Complex Roleplay Scenarios
Once you’ve nailed the basics of being a pet/owner, why not try adding to your scenarios?
You can have complex narratives that include other kinks, like transformation, hypnosis or bandage. You can even play with power dynamics and have the pet be the one in control after a certain point in the roleplay!
If you’re up for it, Pet Play doesn’t have to just be between two people. You can mix things by having multiple pets, or multiple owners.
Your imagination is the limit, so don’t worry about the logistics too much. A lot of abstract concepts can be emulated using clever use of gear and props!
Exploring Public Pet Play
For those of you eager to bring your Pet Play to the next level, or to add that extra sense of realism, public Pet Play might be something to consider!
Obviously, only attempt this if you can handle the possibility of having abuse hurled your way. There are also several important factors you should consider before going ahead.
Consider the space you’re using. Obviously, night clubs and meets are generally going to be more appropriate than a busy local park. Families aren’t likely to be happy to see you!
Even if someone isn’t actively participating in Pet Play, they’re still being included if they can witness it. Therefore you need to consider whether or not your location is one where people are okay with seeing Pup Play without consent.
If you absolutely must go somewhere like a park, try going at times where it is less likely to be busy, or keep yourselves to a sheltered area.
Long Term Relationships In Pet Play
Perhaps you’re exploring Pet Play for the first time with your partner? Or you’ve become attached to your Pet Play participant? You may want to consider implementing this into your Pet Play.
You can always start introducing Pet Play into more domestic scenarios. Need to do laundry? Why not spice things up by doing it as a pet whilst your partner keeps you on a leash?
This is also a great way to help the two of you unwind after a stressful day. Obligations feel a lot less daunting when you can include something erotic at the same time!
Conclusion
So there you have it! Hopefully we have covered a majority of the questions you may have in regards to Pet Play.
Pet Play should provide a sense of personal growth. It’s something powerful that can help form strong bonds between like minded kinksters whilst allowing them to discover more about themselves.
If you’ve read this much, we heavily encourage you to give Pet Play a go. The community is incredibly welcoming, and you may end up making some strong, kinky bonds!
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